Day-to-Day Routine of a Parenting Duo with Unaddressed Emotional Needs as Children: Olive and Oscar, Episode 1
In the heart of their marriage, Olive and Oscar find themselves divided by a chasm as wide as the ocean. Living in separate worlds, they grow ever distant from each other, their frustrations and conflicts left unaddressed.
On a typical Sunday morning, the couple shares a breakfast together. During this routine gathering, Olive asks if there is more coffee. Her question, innocent as it may seem, triggers a wave of irritation in Oscar, a feeling that Olive senses but struggles to understand. This irritation, in turn, makes it difficult for Olive to focus on her reading.
The author of the book "Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parent & Your Children," Jonice Webb, tells the story of Olive and Oscar. The couple's passive-aggressive retaliation and inability to use their feelings in a healthy, relationship-enriching way is a central theme in the book.
Olive, misinterpreting Oscar's irritation as a possible result of job stress, tries to give him space, planning a day apart to improve his mood. However, Oscar views Olive as manipulative, a misconception that further widens the chasm between them.
Later that evening, Oscar surprises Olive by making dinner for them. After dinner, Olive asks about Oscar's work, to which he replies that it's fine. Oscar, feeling manipulated, returns with the coffee pot, placing it on the table with excessive force and sighing.
The couple's marriage is riddled with incorrect assumptions and false readings due to their lack of communication skills. Small, indirect actions like carafe-slamming, avoidance, ignoring, and forgetting become the primary means of coping and communicating in their relationship.
At the heart of their marriage is companionship, history, concern, and love. Yet, it is the emotional neglect that happens in their marriage that is not anyone's choice or fault, but is programmed into the emotionally neglected child. Emotionally neglected kids grow up to emotionally neglect themselves, and it is natural for them to emotionally neglect their spouses when they get married.
Sadly, Olive and Oscar sometimes feel more alone when they are together than they do when they are apart. Their marriage is a double-CEN (Chronic Emotional Neglect) marriage, each lacking full access to their emotions and necessary emotion skills.
It is a tale of two souls, bound by love yet separated by neglect. A story that serves as a stark reminder of the importance of open communication and emotional understanding in a marriage.
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