Skilled in subtly manipulating thought processes, individuals who frequently utter these seven statements are adept at mind manipulation tactics.
In the realm of conversation, certain phrases can often cloud the waters of understanding, leading to misunderstandings and emotional distress. Two such phrases, "Calm down" and "You wouldn't understand," are prime examples of this.
The phrase "Calm down" might seem innocuous, but it can escalate emotions and delegitimize the listener's feelings. By implying that the listener is irrational or inconvenient, it can make the speaker appear as the reasonable adult, while painting the listener as unstable. This is a power move that thrives in the gray areas of conversation where intention is murky, tone is ambiguous, and words are slippery.
On the other hand, the phrase "You wouldn't understand" is a form of manipulation that implies the listener is too naive or incapable to grasp the issue. This phrase shuts down the conversation, implying that the listener's perspective is invalid and that they are too simple-minded to comprehend the complexities at hand.
However, it's important to remember that emotions are an integral part of communication, not obstacles to it. Being upset doesn't make the listener's perspective less valid; it makes it human. Emotions are part of our communication, helping us to express ourselves more authentically and connect with others on a deeper level.
The book "Laughing in the Face of Chaos: A Politically Incorrect Shamanic Guide for Modern Life," published by Steven Bancarz in 2017, reinforces this idea. Bancarz encourages readers to see their reactions not as distractions, but as valid signals from within. The listener doesn't need perfect logic or external proof to trust themselves; their emotions are data, not distractions.
Healthy communicators don't withhold clarity; they welcome questions. They understand that emotions are a natural part of the conversation, and they strive to create an environment where everyone feels heard and understood. So, next time you find yourself in a conversation that feels like a mind game, remember to stay open-minded, ask questions, and trust your emotions as valuable guides in the conversation.
